When working one on one, I attune the client's emotional state. The anxiety that is showing up, for example, how can we greet it like an old friend who means well? Where is it showing up in the body? Is there an subconscious pattern being repeated? Sometimes we stay with the type of suffering that is familiar out of fear of the unknown. 

What's in the way of accepting yourself exactly as you are?

Whether it be traditional monogamy, ENM, or a polycule, the overall relationship is an entity of its own. My goal in working with relationships is to foster a deeper understanding of one another's context. How do our individual upbringings inform the choices we make today? How can we embrace these differences as part of the rhythm of being together?​ 

How can personal accountability be in service of the relationship? 

Raising children between two homes requires a shift in the parental dynamic. No matter the struggles you've had with your former partner, what if they were your co-chair in a non-profit you will manage together in perpetuity? You don't have to like each other to believe in a shared goal. Cooperation is possible in supporting your children's physical and emotional wellbeing.

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How can ego and injury be set aside for the kids? 

You wouldn't expect a PC to operate the same way you would an iOS. There are some elements that are simply incompatible without a converter. The same is true for our human brains. We are all born with different operating systems in some capacity. Without this awareness, we can judge others harshly or worse, ourselves. Navigating a world that seems easier for "everyone else" can take a toll one's self-esteem. 

How can we identify and request supports to help us thrive?